Monstrous Anger

We have all fallen victim to Monstrous Anger, and I am no exception to the reality.

My husband and I used to argue a lot and get mad at each other because we were interpreting each other’s words and actions differently. We both used to get hurt all the time. During our anger triggered fights one of us would ask, ‘Why would I hurt you Love?’ and other would respond ‘I don’t know, but you just did’.

Anger is an emotional reaction when you feel hurt, insulted, threatened or upset. The reaction comes out in a split second and overpowers your mind and body. Anger gives little time to its victim ‘You’ to control it.

However, I have never let my emotions go to the extreme at work. When I do get upset or angry at work, my best approach would be to step away from the situation and think it through before reacting. I think it is easier to control anger when I am not emotionally connected to everyone I work with, right? If so, then why do I get angry at those drivers on the road? I don’t know them and don’t have any emotional connection with them. I am confused L

Monstrous Anger spikes ego, and boosts confidence for a short period of time forcing us to take action which we usually would never take in our sane mind. Anger forces us to react and defend ourselves by using worst means available, such as yelling, screaming, cursing, sidelining, and sometimes violence.

Wow such a strong emotion but has negativity wrapped all around it. You know the saying ‘Love is Blind’, well I think ‘Anger is Blind’ too. Take a breath and think about it.

I think it is very important to take control of anger. How?

Idea!

Are you a parent? Have you seen a kid throwing tantrums in the middle of store and laying on the ground kicking and screaming? What should parents do in this situation?

All advices that I have heard so far gives the same message – Don’t give in to your child’s tantrums. If you give in once, tantrums are going to be more frequent and stronger next time. The situation that embarrassed you today and made you get out of that store or restaurant without shopping or eating will happen again and again.

What happens when you don’t give in to the tantrum, but try to control the situation? You will be working with your child diligently to calm them down. Yes, you may still get out of the store or restaurant today but future tantrums will be less frequent and milder, which makes them easier and easier to control and calm your child down.

So do you think may be the above situation is relatable to anger? I started calming my anger down last year after I got pregnant with my first child. I thank my hormones and motherly instinct for such a wonderful change in meJ. I started letting go and stopped reacting to every little comment or joke that my hubby made. He saw the difference as well when we stopped arguing and getting upset. One day he told me that we don’t argue as much now days and get mad at each other on silly things. My reply to him with a big smile on my face ‘I Love you Sweetheart, and I am glad we are not arguing any more’

We still argue on silly things, and fight sometimes but not as often. We have found a new level of understanding between us. He still tries to amuse me with his dry sense of humor, but most of the time he is literally just kidding around. (Hmmmm… I thinkJ)

So what do you think? Is it possible to treat anger like our child who is throwing a tantrum at us and forcing us to react in its favor? Can we take control knowing that it will be harder in the beginning but eventually we will be able to express our emotions in a better way?

You know it better than I do on how many times anger got you into trouble. Don’t you?

It is easier said than done to be calm when you are hurt, insulted or threatened. But try to just hold back anything you are about to say or do. Every time anger tries to take control, fight back minute or even a second at a time by not giving in, and eventually you will be a Pro in taming Anger down.

I know it is a tough road and I am in there as well…. Did I say road? Don’t forget to keep your calm when that crazy driver cuts you off, or honks at you for no reason. It sure is a tough road.

Yesterday evening I got really angry when I was driving back home and whoever it was in that car in front of me, kept talking on the cell phone and won’t let me pass………. Ughhhhhh…  (I want to honk so badly) why does that person not know that I want to get home to my hubby and my baby.

Hahahahaha…. I guess I need to calm down ;)

Share your ideas on how you calm down your anger?

P.S. My hubby took about 15 shots of me smiling while posing to be angry before we were able to get the above shot. It is hard to be angry in front of camera J